Parenting Advice (As I Learn, I Share): Never Allow Others to Discipline Your Child

The main people responsible to discipline our children are us- parents. Not the grandparents, uncles, aunties, or other relatives. Not our neighbors or friends, or pastors or godfathers and godmothers. Especially not the YAYAs.

I remember someone said "If you don't want the police to discipline your child in the future, be the one responsible now". I can't agree much.

Discipline when the child disobeyed. If the child was hurt already, don't spank him or her again because he or she suffered the consequence already of his or her disobedience. And rod on the butt, not above it, not below it (I always fail on this, specially when my boys have diapers, I heard we should remove the diapers when rodding them).

Parents should not point on each other as to who should discipline. It's a team effort. The person who is there when the disobedience happened should be the one who should discipline. If the father/tatay is present during the disobedience, he should be the one who should discipline the child.

When rodding, use a small rod/stick not a baseball bat or something that will really really hurt. Don't use your hand because the hand should be a symbol of love and care for the child. The rod takes the discipline symbol. The goal is to leave a sting, not a mark or wound! Never rod when you are angry, or else, it will be painful on the child's part. And your emotions goes with the weight of your hand- you will lose control.

~thanks to Sir G.Alba